If you don't struggle to explain who you are, you're probably taking too simplistic a view of yourself. Here's the bare bones in no particular order. Atheist, happily divorced, bisexual (no, I'm not interested in threesomes or fulfilling your fantasies so don't go there), artistically oriented, college-educated, financially stable, and prefer purposeful conversations. Child-free by choice, cancer survivior, gay rights advocate, environmentally concerned, social liberal and financial conservative. My environment is cluttered with art projects, books, cat hair, interesting thrift store finds, textiles, more books, did I mention books?, and everything I'm looking for in every place except where I'm looking. Including, I suspect, my future.